Just found out my fiance cheated on me

[Abschatten]

I just found out the truth about my fiance, she cheated on me with another guy. I don't even know what to do.

[JuJuZerg]

i wouldnt suggest what i would do. but best thing would be try to move on and not let this rip u apart because if it dont kill you, will only make you stronger. But i hope she wasnt ur "fiance" and just gf seeing that ur young o.o;. Working out, music, mary jane. helps. Hope you feel better!


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHFDa9efCQU


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-BM2cjd-NNE&feature=BFa&list=PL353D4DBCD4FBA91F&lf=results_video

[Andenm]

Ive had experience with cheating, i have more tolerance than most people so i gave her more chances than any1 ever needs, the relationship cant, and wont work anymore because deep down, even if you say out loud that its all right, you wont ever trust her again. Trust is 99% of a relationship, if thats gone, what else do you have?

Should probably tell her, that its over and you'll move on, dont see her for a long time, i got over my ex in just 1 day, but then again, im not a normal person, and can move on from things very easily. But, you too can move on from this, just dont dwell on what you know now, and move on. The more you think about it, the more upset you will get, and it will affect your life.

[Abschatten]

I agree with you on the trust. Thats my thing.

[gojyosgirl]

Im sorry dear. I know what its like to be cheated on. All i can tell you is that obviously she didnt deserve you and you will find someone much better out there. I know its hard but you can get thru this and will be a much stronger person in the end. *hugs

[MissFortier]

a cheater is a cheater. There are people you meet who would never cheat on a lover. Cheating is never necessary, if you want to mess around you can by staying single. Cheaters are just selfish. They want both and not worth the grief. You can do much better and there is a lot of girls out there to meet!

[Mana]

It may seem of little consolation now, but better you found out now before getting married. leaving a marriage is considerably more difficult that leaving an engagement. She is not worth YOUR time.

[MissFortier]

It may seem of little consolation now, but better you found out now before getting married. leaving a marriage is considerably more difficult that leaving an engagement. She is not worth YOUR time.

this too is a good thing

[Abschatten]

There is no way I can go back to her. she betrayed the most sacred thing of all, she was intimate with another man. I could not return to her now.

all at the same time i find myself wanting to return to her.

[tonaga]

because it is in human nature to try to "fix" things. is it wrong, no ive felt the same way before. However your remembering the good times, and wanting to go back. the thing is you cant, all you can do is move forward get on with life. it will hurt for a while but it WILL fade and will be a distant memory.

[Abschatten]

The thing is I agree with every single thing people are saying right now but my heart is telling me to try to "fix" but I know its wrong.

[Abschatten]

juju that second song made me feel so much better haha

[JuJuZerg]

yea it did for me too when a hoe cheated on me in high school. I felt the hoe was special w special memories, but in the end u can make those special memories w any girl u fall in love w. After the hoe cheated on me i tried deal w the pain by making new gf which i realized after few times w her that i didnt love her and would just remind me of that hoe that cheated on me. But ofc im over the hoe now that it been like 5 yrs o.o; I know it hurts and cant get that girl out of ur mind, but its really best not to think about it because all it will do is consume and will lead u in a bad path. Being optimistic about the future, being commited on moving on and improving ur life would be the best choice.

After time goes by, u will feel better if u keep being commited and when u meet that new special girl any pain u have left will just numb out.

[Abschatten]

I know it to be true but its so hard trying to move on. The pain is so deep and new that its raw with salt in it. I woke up this morning took my shower brushed my teeth and went to class. you know, i got a little stronger today but I'm still crying like a little kid which there is nothing wrong with but this pain is so deep that it's going to take time before I can heal. I feel like getting in a relationship might help but it wouldn't be fair to the other person. I've always been attracted to this girl and always knew that we would have a great relationship but i could not do anything now because it would not be fair to her. The fall and winter of 2009 and spring of 2010 I was really interested in this girl but i wouldnt leave Jessica (yeah thats the ex fiance) because I loved her and at that time she loved me. I really fell for Crystal but never allowed my self to do anything, Jessica just went through this with this guy but she crossed that line and destroyed me. She destroyed my faith, my world and my heart. I keep trying to eat but my body won't let me. I am normally so addicted to coffee i could drink it all day. I can't really drink or eat anything because this is tearing at me so bad. Her Aunt called her and told her pretty much straight up that she was a bitch to me and that she didnt deserve me and that she needs to find herself and her own happiness because i was the one who made her happy, before me she was with another guy and after that relationship she was destroyed she lost 10 pounds didnt eat, showered once a week barley got out of bed for about 4 months. After she met me that was all gone. but for the last year she says that it has gone away and she is trying to search for that. She doesnt know what happened its just that the love has gone. There was nothing that did it. The thing is i stood beside her on everything. No one else supported her and now she is saying she needs to stand on her own two feet yeah thats true but she didnt have to hurt me like this.

[Jarrett]

this isn't worth discussing anymore since he has decided self respect doesn't mean anything and after 20 times (There is recordings) of her cheating they're giving it another go. I cannot allow this bs emo fest to go on here.

Locked.